Written by Francis LeGasse Jr., Co-Founder Sevens Home Care
Continuing from yesterday’s post, my family after reviewing a few agencies found one that met their needs and soon began care. The care plan that I wanted and tried to enforce was twice a day morning and evening. My logic for this is that the morning and evening are the most difficult times because of the dressing, bathing and grooming. Prior, to his Parkinson’s my grandfather was a strong independent person whom never asked for help. He always found a way to get things done. My grandfather was very resistant and said he didn’t need help. However, my mother was able to convince them to start with just three days a week. My grandmother thought the caregivers were wonderful but my grandfather hated being helped by a stranger. Unbeknown to the family my grandparents slowly started to reduce care and eventually cancelled care all together. My grandfather stated that this is no way to live having someone help me when my wife can do everything.
My grandparents were in a tough situation they knew they needed help but didn’t want it. To this day I still have no idea why they didn’t want the help. I struggle with this every day. I’m very angry that I wasn’t more forceful and told them they are going to have it whether they like it or not. But how do you tell an 85 year old proud strong man that he doesn’t have a choice in life. The answer is you can’t unless you can better educate him on the benefits.
My hope for writing about my grandparents’ situation is to try and prevent other grandchildren, children, parents, and grandparents for going through a similar situation. I truly believe that had my grandfather not refused care he would still be around today. The fall he had could have been prevented or mitigated in severity. One of the primary responsibilities of Sevens Home Cares’ Caregivers is to prevent or mitigate falls. For some reason my grandfather never understood the caregivers were there to help him.
Over the next several weeks I will be writing more about my grandfather’s situation. If you have any questions or would just like to get another perspective please don’t hesitate to contact me personally at Sevens Home Care. All families deserve to see their loved ones live out a fulfilling and safe life. Sometimes a little help is all that’s needed to keep a sanctuary within their home. But it takes time, it takes persuasion but it’s a fight worth taking on because I know my grandfather would have been here to celebrate the holidays with us if he continued with the help of Caregivers.